Wednesday, December 26, 2007...2:50 pm
the great divide
No, this is not about my mother. It’s about my husband’s family. I love them all to bits but at the moment there are all sorts of wrong going on.
There is a boy who makes everyone’s heart melt just so. He has helped me cope with my loss when he was but a tiny baby seeing the world for the first time. He rubbed his wet-with-saliva hand on my face and looked into my eyes and showed me that I could start all over again. He’s two years old now. He adores bubbles and everything makes him laugh with contagious glee. I promise you if you see him, you will want to hug him so. And if you ask him to he will kiss you with the pointiest lips you’ve ever seen.
I don’t see how anyone can NOT love this boy. He’s the sweetest little thing with the naughtiest streaks that you will find amusing. And if you love this boy (though you refuse to admit it), how can you disrespect the mother from whom he was born? Does it matter that she is not the wife when the boy’s father is happier with her? Does it matter if the relationship is unconventional, when the fruit of their love can make so many happy?
The wife is an unhappy one keeping the daughter away from the father and grandmother. The wife pinches the daughter under the pretense of concern. How deceitful. And yet she expects the husband to come running back to her. She’s had her chance to make it work. Since she didn’t do her best, she must accept that the marriage is over. But she can’t because of people who meddle. They tell her things to make her believe that she can get that husband back. Sadly the husband is long gone and refuses to even talk to her about anything other than their daughter’s well being.
I cannot get over how some people will go to great lengths to meddle with someone else’s affairs. The fact is that marriage is over. He is with someone else now. Get over yourselves people!
It’s not about the new girl. It’s about the brother in law who never complains about all this that’s going on. It’s his life, his choice. Why are they making it so hard for him when it shouldn’t be? Why are they forcing things? And why are they meddling with the way this new girl raises her sweet little boy? Why do they ignore her? Why do they spew forth painful words meant for her? What has she done to them?
I can see how this brother in law loves this new girl. I can see them. The way he checks on the bathroom before sending her in there for a bath. The way he tells her she’s sexy as she smoothes down her skirt. The way he assures her that it’s okay to let their boy go and play with the bigger cousins.
What makes them think they know better?
My mother in law is the nicest lady I know, the kindest and by far the most unselfish. How can they do this to her who provides for so many of them? How can they do this to her son who has never meddled with anyone’s affairs?
Why can’t they respect other people’s choices? Why can’t they let him be? They have their own problems to deal with and they are wasting time messing up his life. I want to lash out at them and make them leave him and his family alone.
But I won’t because I’m a coward and I’m scared I might finally seal the fate of this great divide.
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